personalities to avoid!

personalities to avoid in life!

Hey lovelies! it's been a while i have been getting a lot done lately, but i miss you all and i hope everyone is doing wonderful! congrats too class of 2009! My little sister is graduating next Saturday, so congrats to everyone making it out of high school and getting ready to step in

to the real world. well today this blog is dedicated to you soon to be graduates!

I want to talk about toxic personalities that you should stay away from, once you all head to college and the business world these people are all over the place and they love to bring other down to their miserable level so let's find out who they are!!


Now I know that we like to think that all the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, unfortunately a lot of folks are not this way and you have to weed them out asap. I have personally had moments where I've been happy all day,

and I'll be Damned if someone did not use their negativity to try and suck the happiness and joy out of my life for that split second, you need to watch out for folks like this seriously!

Here is a list of theses toxic personalities,

I had to switch up the names to suite my needs lol !

1. Manipulative Micah: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics.

Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.

Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and
self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.


2. Narcissistic Nikki: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."

Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust.
You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will find somthing wrong like screaming "NO IT NOT, IT'S TOO HOT!"

If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jessica: When ever you see things as cute and fly, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'.
If you like someone's unique taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.
basically these types of chicks always have some thing to say and it's usually never positive!

Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is so over. I have found in life that a lot of judgmental people are insecure with them selves, and are far from perfect! so this is why they judge others so harshly.

Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Keisha a.k.a the playa hater!:
Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

these folks are straight up haters there is no other words to describe them!

Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars. So screw the haters and belive in your own goals and dreams!

6. Insincere Inez a.k.a funny acting!: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response. They also tend to always have a smart responce for everything as well!

Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Dan a.k.a the loose cannon: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who's all in your business, when it is none of their business!Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.
cut them off asap because before long, it may turn in to a physical altercation!

8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

Parents and other family member can sometimes fall in to this category.

Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.


so to all my young people out there, getting ready for the real world, these are the people you need to steer clear from. you have so much to look forward too don't let anyone or anything deter you from your dreams and goals! send out positive vibes and in return you shall bring positive people in to your life.
remember my saying life is too short!!!
DO NOT spend your time dealing with TOXICITY AND OR NEGATIVITY.

be blessed!